I had a brain aneurysm in 1993 and I have been on disability ever since. I am in a situation now however where I had a boyfriend and I ended up moving with him onto his parent's ache-rage and there is a property full of people who have lived here for years. Slowly he began to revert to this mean spirit due to his alcohol use. He is a full on addict in that respect with no desire to change. He is hurting my spirit. Also I have a drivers license and he does not. His parents gave him the car but it's in my name due to the fact that he has DUI jail issues yet he is verbally abusive to me in front of everyone and I have to keep calm due to potential seizure activity due to stress. I am so broke because I have helped out for 4 years to my wits end and although I did love him he is turning into a devil right in front of mine. I have no car and I need a cheep 300 dollar studio to live in so please keep me in mind. I know I can take care of myself but there is a whole childlike attitude of lies and deception that is drug related on there part. The parents are in there 80's and they are not going to be here for very much longer so I am pleading with some help

Hi I have never really asked for help like this... so I dont really know where to start. Well' I just turned 20 years old and I live in Dallas, TX.
I was renting an apartment with my fiance, he was the only one working and I was the house wife and still going to college. I ended up kicking him out because (as embarrassing as this is to say) he was abusive and kind of controlling. I realized that as much as I loved him no matter what I did, he didn't want to change. He was going to continue drinking, breaking things around the house and hurting me as well. So one day... I got all of my clothes and left. The next day I called him and told him that scene the apartment was under my name he had to leave or I would call the cops. After he left, I moved back in because I had no where else to go. I only have like a week to come up with the rent money and even if I get a job right now I wont be able to pay the whole rent on time. I only need help for this month. Does anyone know of any church or Organization that would be willing to help me with the rent? just for this month... I am already looking for a job and willing to work.

Please Help! I Am currently living in Pawtucket, RI with my abusive (verbal,emotional,mental, some physical, and some sexual) boyfriend. Back in March 2009, I lived with my mom, but we were effected by the flood. I lost everything I had, was forced to move in with my boyfriend (while my family, threw me to the curb). Since then, my life has been turned upside down. Lost my job in August, have nobody to help me and I refuse to be in a shelter due to I have been there before & will not go back unless that is my last option. I need a place to live, a job, counseling (I have a history of ADD/ADHD, depression that is SEVERLY out of control - trying to get an appt. now seeing I FINALLY have insurance), maybe a case of bi-polar (need evaluation). Everything is getting to be too much for me and I can't seem to find any help for people like me. I need a helping hand so to say, all my life I never had a relationship with my mom even tho we lived together. I was never taught life skills, independence, etc and now I was forced into the world by myself with no help and stuck in a place/relationship I do not want to be in anymore. I was offered to go to my sisters home whom lives in Mass but again I will not have a job nor do I have any money for the way out there as well as money to have for needs (food, clothing, etc) until i get a job. Someone please help me! E-mail is HazelEyedQT1719@AOL.com ... thank you in advance :)

http://knol.google.com/k/suzanne-perry/victims-of-domestic-violence-and-family/3i95w0zc0vckx/1#

Buffalo State College talk to break the silence on domestic violence and abusive relationships.

Buffalo State College, Breaking the Silence. I brought some musician friends to perform and encouraged see something SAY something.

http://www.slideshare.net/enoughofit7/suzanne-perry11-2210

I am a Pastor just wanting to help in any way I can.Rather you just need someone to talk to,to listen to you or are looking for help you can always count on me as the saying goes Here's your SIGN!! have a blessed day and please feel free to contact me about anything and all private talks are just that, by oath i can not reveal what you tell me confidentially but can help you to better your situation.

If you have been hurt by any man in your life please feel free to share your story so other women may listen and help you out... Or they may be able to relate and if you solved the situation you may help them with your story! :) we are all here for one and another!

Hi everyone, I am new to this, so please bear with me, I am not sure if I am doing the right thing, but I thought I may give it a try.  Basically, I need advice and help if possible regarding my situation.  I do not want to seem selfish in asking for help as I know there are people out there that are in much more need of help than me, and if only I could help them, believe me I would.  If I won the lottery, I would help as many people as possible.

Okay, I will start off by explaining my past and current problems. I am 38 years of age and currently been finished in my employment that I enjoyed as I had to have an operation on my foot and was unfit for work for a few weeks, so they decided to finish me.  Unfortunately, although it is good news for me and my Iranian partner, I am 3 months pregnent (after losing 2 babies this year).  Unfortunately, we have a very big problem.  My partner came from Afghanistan 2 years ago and was not granted asylum.  He has to voluntarily leave the UK to return to his country of origin to apply to come back to the UK as my fiance.  I was sponsoring and supporting my fiance to do this but unfortunately within the past 2 months, this has all changed and we are now in fear that he will be deported before we can raise the money for sponsoring him to settle in the UK with myself and our new born baby due next May 2007.  I have tried so hard to find a job but no one seems to want to employ me because I am pregnant.

When I was 16 I met a man whom I was in a relation ship for 15 years.  During this time we had 2 daughters who are now 12 and 11 years old.  My partner used to be very abusive towards me from when we moved in together and the girls were born and I found out he was having affairs with other women and had named our daughter after one of them.  He was very selfish towards me and often kicked me in front of my two girls.I finally built up the courage to leave him but had to stay with some friends until I could find a place to live from the local council.  In the meantime I had to leave my 2 daughters behind and because of this and my partner then got custody of my two girls because they were still in the house with him.  He told me that he would see me in hell and would make my life financially difficult for me.  I was heartbroken and devastated and I gave up everything.  I never had a penny from our house or any belongings from him as I could not bear to take these things away from my girls.  I had to start off from scratch and found that paying off his debts of at least £15000 became too much for me to handle.  I therefore had to go bankrupt, destroying all my credit rating.  Later in the year, I met a man who was from Albania who seemed very caring and loyal and eventually moved in with me in my apartment.  I had my girls every weekend for at least 3 days a week now.  My new man asked me to marry him after knowong him a year, I was delighted as I had never been married and loved him to bits.  All went well, and as soon as we were married, things changed.  He started going out on his days off, coming home at 2 - 5 in the mornings.  Drinking too much alcahol, being abusive towards me and punching and hitting me when he got angry because I questioned where he had been.  He started to call me fat, old and ugly.  He went home to Albania every year without taking me with him. Then in July 2006, he came back from Albania and I found out that he had been seeing a woman there and that is why he would not take me with him.  He actually left me and apologised for the way he had treated me over the past 6 years.  I was heartbroken and devastated.  I would not go out, would not eat and lost 2 stone in weight over a few weeks.  Eventually my friends convinced me to go out and socialise again.  I built up the courage to go to the theatre one night, but instead, because it was the end of the season and closed, I diverted to the pub I knew well over the road.

This is where I met Nasir, my current partner from Afghanistan.  He told me from the very begining that he wanted a serious relationship and wanted to be with someone that had a good heart as he had also been hurt badly in 2 relationships before.  We have been together for nearly a year and a half, he absolutely adores my 2 daughters.  I speak to is family in Iran on a regular basis.  He so much wants me to meet his mum and brothers.  He is the most kind and gentlest man I have ever known in my life.  He does everything he can to make me happy.  At last, I have found my perfect partner, but now face a problem of sponsoring him to be with me.  If I could, I would move to Iran with him, but he knows that it would be impossible for me as I have two girls here.  We are so worried as we do not want to be parted from each other as we want to be together when our baby is born.  Nasir has a big dream of starting up a cafe in my hometown but so far this seems to be just a dream at the moment.  We so much want to get married but are not allowed as the government do not allow immigrants to marry if they are not legal here.

We feel as if our world is coming to an end unless we can get help from other sources of sponsorship.  I can easily accommodate Nasir as I live in a rented 3 bedroomed property but am at  the moment finding it hard to support him as my job (would you believe it, at the Immigration Tribunal Service?) came to an end after my operation and no one seems to want to employ me for being pregnant.  We feel like Romeo and Juliet, not being allowed to love each other as we want to and not being allowed to stay with each other.  The government will not allow Nasir to work as he is a failed asylum seeker from Afghanistan.  They will not help in any way.  The clock is ticking away and we don't have much time to sort out this problem.  On a weekly basis he has to sign at an immigration office to prove he is still living with me and they have also issued him with a ltter stating that at anytime in the future, he could be detained and deported back t his own country.  We are in desperate need of help.  Please please please, I know this problem may sound trivial to some of you but it means a lot to us to be together as a family and not to have to suffer being torn apart against our own will.

We would very much be grateful if there is anyone out there, willing to sponsor us in anyway.

Please help us if you can.

Many many thanks for any comments that are posted.  Lots of love from two loving and caring people that just want to be a happy family,

 Onoclio and Nasir xxx

i really don't know where to start. i'm a single mother of 3 children 13,4 and 9 months.i was in an abusive relationship for 5 years and finally broke down and had him arrested when he dislocated my shoulder.i pressed charges and hes now doing 3 years in florida. when we were together i was'nt aloud to get a job, when i did finally get one i had to quit because i was making more money than him. i'm 29 years old and i can't find a job, i dont know if its because of my work history or lack of work period, i basically have no family to turn to, its ironic because my kids grandparents (exes parents) live right above me. their just as bad as he is. they see my 4 year old outside and walk right past her like se does'nt exist. i don't know what to do anymore. i try my best to keep a roof over my kids head and try not to let them see the pain i'm in. i'm 2 months behind in rent, we had our electric turned off but i managed to come up with the money to get it turned back on. i'm not asking anyone for $1,000,000,000 . i would even make a promise to pay back whatever was given to me when i get on my feet. i'm not even really asking for money but if someone would just hire me that would be even better. i'm not a stupid person, i'm actually very smart and intellagent. and a quick learner. please someone help!